The Difference Between Self-Respect and Arrogance

According to the Vedas and other scriptures, having self-respect (स्वाभिमान) is not a negative trait, but arrogance/ego/pride (अभिमान) is. Self-respect means the desire to receive due wealth, honour, and recognition according to one’s true qualities, actions, and abilities and to interact with others justly. In contrast, arrogance/ego/pride involves expecting more wealth, honour, and recognition than one’s actual qualities, actions, and abilities warrant, and acting unfairly or oppressively towards others.

Impact of Past Karmas on Self-Respect and Arrogance

Due to the varying influences of past karmas, some individuals may exhibit both self-respect and arrogance in their lives, leading to conflicts with others. When conflicts arise due to arrogance or pride, the wise approach is to let go of the arrogance or ego and seek mutual adjustment. Doing so will make future interactions more harmonious, and both individuals will benefit from each other throughout their lives.

If conflicts due to arrogance or ego lead to the severance of relationships, it will result in mutual loss and prevent the benefits that could have been gained from each other. It is not wise to let conflicts escalate, but if past impressions lead to a clash, the more intelligent course is to make mutual adjustments.

The Path to Harmonious Interactions

The greatest wisdom is to ensure that neither party is arrogant/egoistic. Both should maintain self-respect but avoid arrogance/pride. If both individuals are self-respecting and act justly, conflicts will not arise. The root cause of conflicts is arrogance/ego. Even if only one person exhibits arrogance, the likelihood of conflict remains high.

The Role of Self-Respect in Preventing Conflict

If both parties are self-respecting, they will strive to understand each other and act wisely. By recognizing each other’s virtues and behaving appropriately, they will lead a joyful life without conflicts, benefiting mutually and making their lives successful. This will also be advantageous for society.

A Call to Action: Fostering Wisdom and Self-Respect

Therefore, everyone should focus on self-respect and act wisely, leaving arrogance/ego/pride behind.